i liked the movie "ang pagdadalaga ni maximo oliveros". it showed me how people in a way respond to gay people now a days. first, the family accepted him more than anyone around them. they loved him for whoever he is and even supported him with whatever he feels like doing. in return, maximo, being gay and showcasing a large interest in doing a girls "job", he made sure that he served his family and his family was very much satisfied.
nature vs. nurture: i believe that both of this theories have something to contribute regarding maxi's personality. although the movie didn't show how he was since he was born, i have encountered kids, at a very young age, showing signs that they are gay. so i believe that it can be that it is already in their nature, that they were born to be gay (and i believe there's really nothing wrong with that, while some people call it a disease?). nurture also plays a part. like socialization, because people around maxi was "open" with him being gay. so he didn't really have a problem. his family never attested to him being gay, so he never got comfortable and because his family supported him, he didn't care about what other people say. he was enjoying who he is, and he was happy. he even fell for a guy, and his family was okay with it, okay with that maxi was falling for a guy, but not okay with the guy he fell for. also, i think socialization plays a really big part because i also remember that scene were they where playing a beauty contest were they dressed up at their best as women. so they were imitating what they see in their society. another theory that i can see in the movie is the theory of cognitive development. growing up, maxi being gay, plays a role of a girl, he feels like a girl, tries to dress like one even. there's this scene where he just grabs a dirty kid out from the street and started to give him a bath, not in a harassing manner, but in a way that he just wants the kid to get cleaned. this way, he was playing a role of an older sister who just wants to clean her little brother. no one saw this as something bad, so he just continued
what he was doing, he was just trying to help anyway. because of this, maxi developed this personality of being loving and caring,in our society, we may say that this is being feminine, that's the main reason why guys don't show so much love and affection when they are out in public, because they are afraid that people might think that they're gay. so maxi got used to it and loved doing what he was doing, so he became more feminine.
